Advice for myself
unpleasant experiences will happen.
thatâs life.
donât take them personally.
donât victimize yourself.
donât panic or waste your energy getting angry.
discernment > detachment
allow yourself to have your desires, your wants, your needs, your dreams
but also learn to discern when something may not be for you (maybe yet), or when sometimes itâs about presence and enjoying whatâs currently in your life.
I like the idea of reminding myself how insigniïŹcant I am by being in the middle of nature, by being in the middle of an ocean, or being at sea. Thereâs something very reassuring to remind yourself every once in a while that you need to take yourself outside of your own trivial little problems and consider yourself as a speck
To not dance when you had the health and could hear the music could be the biggest regret of your life.
People with childhood trauma who grew up in abusive households where their worth was reduced to their ability to secure capitalist trophies like well-paying jobs, accolades & awards, a cis-heteronormative relationship, & other arbitrary metrics of success. They grow up thinking that they will not receive love, care, validation and affection unless they âexcelâ at conforming. It takes years of unlearning, addressing your trauma and receiving community support to grow out of this âclimb the ladderâ mentality. You donât know which growth phase of someones life youâre catching them.
âAn unspoken expectation is unkindâ
Looking back at journals from 2 – 3 years ago and realising that Godâs slowness to bring things into fruition was never a punishment, but rather preparation. He always gets us to where weâre supposed to be at the perfect time.