Whenever you’re stuck in a disagreement, come back to this: Are you arguing over what’s factual, what matters, or what works?

• Persistence
• Discipline
• Integrity
• Courage
• Strength
• Passion

Have Integrity & Set Boundaries

just because someone else has already done it is no excuse not to do it

When you catch urself in zombie mode, don’t apply force. Just describe your experience out loud. Ur whole system will catch up on it and naturally shift course.

“I am doomscrolling for three hours already. I wanted to do x y or z but I’m too tired for all of them so I got stuck here. Now I’m wondering what I actually have energy for that would be good. […]”

The process of becoming yourself is not a corporate desk job, and it is not homework, and it is not an unticked box languishing on a to-do list. You do not have to treat your flaws like action items that must be systematically targeted and eliminated in order to receive a return on investment. You have no supervisor; you should not be punished when you fail. Your job is not to lock the doors and chisel at yourself like a marble statue in the darkness until you feel quantifiably worthy of the world outside. Your job, really, is to find people who love you for reasons you hardly understand, and to love them back, and to try as hard as you can to make it all easier for each other. 

there isn’t actually a correct answer re: how to do this, the correctness is something that emerges.