Sex in Human Loving

This author was brought to my attention by two of my friends at the same time, so I couldn’t ignore it. I was recommended a different book though — “Games People Play.” Since I couldn’t get it at the moment in a version and language that I’d like, I chose this one. I know some of the context of the former book, at least enough to know that this book expands on the bases that were laid out in it. The concept of three personalities within us: the Child, Parent, and Adult who come forward in various situations, and that it’s good to know who is talking to whom in social interactions to determine the motivations and fears.

I’ve enojyed Berne’s categorizations (eg. types of marriage) and diagrams of relationships. They mainly soothed my urge to name and classify things, and the book would be a pretty neat manual to human relations for an autist (hello). Clinical yet humorous approach to dissecting human intimacy creates an sweet balance.

I’ve skimmed the second half of the book, because the conclusions made seemed a bit watered down and the theoretical framework started to feel repetitive. The first half offered sharp insights and clever categorizations, the latter pages felt like Berne was stretching his transactional analysis model beyond its most useful applications.